i think... i have a fear of surprises.. not like being startled, not like that.. not like earthquakes, i actually like those...
more like taking something for granted, and then finding out it's not true at all..
i guess that's what i mean..
a fear of the other shoe dropping
yeah, maybe that's it
Mine's isn't much of a fear. But mine would be "fear of change". I am content with the rut I have made. Sure it has it's problems, but it also has advantages. But whenever somebody suggests I change, for them, or as they say "for the better" I literally freak out. To the point of where they give up, or just deal with me as is.
Being gravely injured. I've always been a careful, not very daring person by not taking many risks. Driving was one of them for the longest time, have a fear of getting into a serious accident.. especially with all the morons on the road and it's not getting any better either.
This also relates to the fear of thinking something bad could happen to a loved one, primarily my beloved girlfriend. If i don't hear from her by a designated time or if she's late I have heightened anxiety and my mind often pictures the worst and at times can drive me nuts.
Any of us can go at any time, life is frail, so I suppose I fear death itself too. But sudden death, not so much death from old age, but "dying before your time" so-to-speak... and the great unknown beyond.
I've generally always stuck with telling people that my biggest fear was change.. As contradicting as it seems, that fear is changing and lessening in its own way because in my heart I know that there is always the good kind of change present. And what is yours, my dear?
Yes, you have a very valid fear, not knowing the unknown future, leaving the confort of what you know can be very scary indeed.
My biggest fear is probably growing old. I'm starting to come to terms with it though. I think it's mostly a vanity issue. Also, I am very afraid of outliving my husband and kids. I don't want to be a lonely old woman.
I fear failure too. I have one of those perfectionist personalities. I try hard to be good at whatever I do. I still kick myself in the ass for getting a C in college, which dropped my GPA slightly. I still graduated with honors, magna cum laude, but had it not been for that one class, I could have been top in my class. Oh well.
I don't fear growing old yet. I don't have kids or a husband and I am still pretty young. I'm sure the fear will come to me someday, though, probably as I am nearing the end.
I think in some way we all fear failure, like it's something we are born with. But yet, it is more finely tuned with some people. We all fear failure, just in different ways. For some people it's more of a social phobia, others it's grades, and so on.
So there is much comfort in what you fear.. I mean that like there are many other people who feel the same way.